Does this sound familiar: You meet a great guy. Hes super attractive. Smart. Sexy. Yall have so much in common from how you like your coffee to similar political beliefs and after spending time with him you realize hell be the perfect father for the 2.3 kids you all will have together. The problem: He says hes not looking for a relationship right now but hed love to be friends. So of course you agree because you just know that once he gets to know you (and we mean know in all possible meanings of the word) then hell know youre his Mrs. Right just as you already know hes your Mr. Right. Right? Wrong.

How many times have you or someone you know fell into that oh so easily slipped into trap mentioned above: women so anxious to be with someone, that they overlook what the person is telling then and end up incredibly hurt and angry in the end when things dont work out they way theyd hoped. Ladies, youve got to understand that when a man says, Im not looking for a relationship, right now, he means hes NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW! Its just that simple. He may think youre great. He may think the sex with you is the best hes ever had. He may think youre the best thing since cornbread. But that still doesnt mean hes looking to make you his lady.

The reality is for men relationships have a lot to do about where they are in life. Maybe he wants to focus on his career. Maybe he just got out of a relationship and wants to be single for awhile. Maybe he just isnt ready for the responsibility of having a girlfriend. Whatever the reason it adds up to the same thing: He isnt looking for a relationship right now. So listen when the man of your dreams tells you that. Listen and listen well. Be his friend. Be his confidante. And most importantly keep your panties on. And maybe just maybe when hes ready for a relationship hell remember what a great friend he had, one who was there for him when it mattered and think, Why look somewhere else for Mrs. Right when she has been right here with me all along.