You dont realize it, but in the next few minutes, youre going to rekindle your passion for your spouse.

Remember that first date? How long ago was it? I know you can remembergo back there now. I want you to remember somethingthe butterflies in your stomach, the magic, the awkwardness, and that rush of anticipation.

Did you get nervous? Did you preen yourself before the mirror for hours before the appointed time? Did your heart beat faster when you first saw him or her coming through the restaurant door or sitting at a table waiting for you as you rushed in late.

Why were you nervous?

Isnt it because that meeting was special? You wanted everything to turn out right. You wanted to be right for the other person. You anticipated a magical future.

What happened before that date? What kind of person were you? What kind of person did you want to meet? And how did you feel when you first saw him or her?

Now plunge right into the moments of that first date. Do you remember how he or she looked at you? Do you remember exchanging meaningful glances? Do you remember the smile, the motion of the hand, and the tilt of the head? What did you talk about on that first date? How did you feel?

What happened after the date? Where did you go? What did you do?

Can you recall that burst of happiness? When did it occur?

Do you remember the silences, the jokes, the special music, and the magical places?

How long did your romance last?

How do you feel right now? Is the magic still there? Has it faded away?

If youre like me, you want the magic to make a come-back.

Now, its time to do something special. Ask your spouse out on a date. And during your date, ask him or her the questions that youve just finished answering. See if something magical might happen again.