While Charles Dickens images might flash through your mind, most families also experience War of the Roses moments during the holiday season. A few conscious steps pre-holiday can maximize your memorable moments.

Dream a little: Take an hour to clearly think about what type of holiday you want to create and what memories you want to last. Whats most important to you? We cant have the holiday we desire, if we dont know what it is we want.

Let go: Dont let external expectations extinguish your holiday spirit. Focus on the list you made each day to keep your priorities in focus.

Create versus compete: Instead of trying to out-do last year (or any other year), have a contest to add a new tradition.. Choose a simple prize and have all the family members reveal their idea at dinner.

Involve everyone: In early December have each family member share his or her favorite holiday moments (excluding gifts received!) from years passed. Talk about how you can all pitch in to create many more memories this season.