Little did I know the effect a rose would have on my girl-friend, soon to be fianc and later bride. After the first few dates I decided to give a single red rose to my girl-friend. I thought it would be a good way to say I am thinking of you. The effect was amazing. He face lit up and I could see the joy on her face. The best part happened two weeks later when I came over to visit and it was still there. Weeks went by and it was still on display (after she had dried it of course). That rose is still on display in my house. She told me that I was the first boy to ever give her a rose.
I have given here other gifts but, the rose is the one that she remembered and saved. That single rose symbolized my wanting her to know I was thinking of her. To her it symbolized our blossoming love. That is what she cherishes most. That is why the rose symbolizes so much for her. It really was the perfect gift for her.
Choosing the perfect gift for her is not always easy. I had no idea that the rose would mean so much to my girl friend, now wife. However, there are some guidelines that you can follow for finding that perfect something.
Small Most of the time smaller is better. Big items are impressive in the moment but often lose their emotional value over time because they have to be stored away, cleaned, or moved often. A general rule of thumb is that if it is a hassle to maintain or to deal with it wont capture the sentimental value that you want. Simple Gifts of this type should be simple. It should have simple, but elegant packaging, and the item itself should be simple. Simplicity allows her to associate the item with what she should cherish most, you love. If it is complicated or requires training it wont have the effect you desire. Simple is different than practical. Your gift should not be practical. Women just arent the practical sex. Imagine giving your wife a pocket knife as a way of saying I love you. Sacrifice Your gift should require some sacrifice. This doesnt always mean that you have to go out and spend a fortune. It could simply mean you sacrifice some time to write her a letter or make her a card. The important thing her is to let her know that you are willing to invest time in her. You will be surprised at how effective a simple well write love note will win her heart. Timing As with all things timing is every thing. Give your gift when the moment is right. This can be a planned thing or completely spontaneous but wait until it is right. Wait until she is completely focused on you. Try to do it in a place where there will be no distractions and where she can have your full attention also. This may be at a restaurant, in a car, on her porch, or wherever. Just make sure you are both focused and attentive on each other. Delivery When you give her the gift, just do it! Dont stammer, dont play it down, dont look away, just give it to her and say I love you. If you have put time into it and you have timed it right it will speak volumes all by its self. Make sure it is in attractive packaging and is pretty easy to open. If you have a hard time with choosing packaging go and have it professionally wrapped. Creativity Let your personality shine through. Remember there are more ways to a girls heart than just diamonds and roses. Think of things you have done together, think of her dreams, and think of what she values. Finally you gift will be more memorable if there is a connection to the love that you share. The perfect gift for her is not such a hard thing to choose. It just takes a little more time thought and creativity. Remember the secret lies in size, sacrifice, timing, delivery, and creativity. |
